Entering into a therapeutic relationship is a big step. Deciding to make the first phone call or send the first email to me can feel difficult. I thought that knowing what to expect might make it a little easier.
The first step in starting therapy, of course, is contacting me. This is accomplished either by email or by phone. I’ll get back to you to arrange a time for an appointment.
When you arrive for your first appointment, you’ll need to sign a few forms. I’ll go over my confidentiality and office policies. We’ll discuss my fee for services and decide on payment arrangements. The remainder of our first session will be spent getting to know each other. We will focus on whatever you need to talk about. You will be free to ask questions and make your expectations known.
A Few Pictures of My Office
I’ve created a comfortable, quiet, and private space to enhance our work together. It’s a place I hope we will be able to do good work together, free from the distractions of the outside world.
How I Work
I won’t play psychological games with you. I want to get to know you and come to understand why you have come to see me. I don’t think psychological games can help me do that. I might ask about your past, or how you envision your future, and how that relates to what you are going through, but our interaction will focus primarily on the present. Our main goal is to work together to enable you to move toward resolution of the problem that brought you to my office.
I understand that I will never know you as well as you know yourself. You are the expert on you. Your perspective matters. So you should always feel free to disagree with me.
If you feel good about our interaction during the first appointment and you think that we can work well together, then we’ll set up another appointment. If you aren’t sure that I am the right counselor for you, then tell me that you’d prefer to work with someone else. It’s imperative that you find a therapist you resonate with. That’s the only way you can do good work. I don’t expect to resonate with everyone!
The Reality of Therapy
The reality of psychotherapy is it doesn’t always work. You don’t always get what you want out of the process. You and the people you love don’t always make the changes that you had hoped for. And sometimes things get worse before they get better.
Change happens when you open your mind to new and different possibilities — when you are willing to look at your life from a new perspective. Often that means stepping outside your comfort zone. It takes work. It’s not easy. But if you are willing to stretch and make new connections, entering into therapy can transform your life in ways that you never imagined. I have seen lives transformed in ways that even I never imagined. I have devoted my entire career to forging relationships with clients to create change and transform lives. Are you ready to join me?
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